Everyone has a slightly different style and set of priorities when it comes to raising kids. Still, it can be hard to hold your tongue when you see a parent doing something you wouldn't.

Remember that parenting methods are very personal and what works for you may not work for someone else. Also think about how you feel when you're criticized by strangers urging you to put a hat on your baby, or relatives who disagree with your approach to sleep or feeding routines. Ask yourself whether the thing that bugs you is even worth making an issue of. Often there's no "right answer," but rather, solutions that work best in particular situations.

Sometimes the best course, especially with a friend, is to agree to disagree. Try to avoid discussing the controversial topics and focus instead on whatever shared attributes made you friends in the first place.

On the other hand, if that friend's approach affects your baby (because she or her child treats yours in a way that worries you – for example, her baby hits or bites repeatedly and she ignores the behavior), then you should talk about it. Ditto if you feel she's doing something that endangers her baby – she may not have the same information you do and may be unaware of the risks.

Be honest and specific about your concern. At the same time, try to emphasize that you're bringing up the issue because you want to stay good friends. If she's unresponsive, you'll have to decide what's best for you and your baby.

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