Finding the time and energy for sex as new parents is challenging enough. And then there's the small matter of the third party in your room or down the hall, ready to wail at the least opportune moment. But with a little planning and effort, anything is possible!

Flirt. Flirting isn't the same as foreplay. It's sexual play without the intention of immediate sexual activity. Flirting with your partner (in person, on the phone, or by email or texting, for example) helps both of you get in the mood.

Time it right. You don't always have to "sleep when the baby sleeps." Nap time provides a great chance to get intimate before end-of-the-day exhaustion sets in.

Make a "date." You don't have to dress up and go out – simply plan ahead to stay in. When you're new parents, sharing massages or taking a shower together while the baby sleeps counts as a date.

Keep a sense of humor. Be ready for things to not go as usual. If you're breastfeeding, for instance, you may see some milk leak or spray. If your baby does start to cry, don't rush to the rescue. Wait a few minutes to see whether he or she settles back to sleep. If your baby does settle down, you may find that the mood has been broken anyway. Don't call the whole thing off. Start back with slow, gentle foreplay and see what happens.

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